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Dealing with house rules during and after a divorce

When two Florida parents decide to get a divorce but continue to share parenting duties, there may be problems when the parents attempt to establish separate house rules. For children who are already going through a major transition, trying to learn two different sets of house rules can be overwhelming.

There are several reasons why divorced parents should consider working together to implement rules that are consistent between the two households. First, common house rules can provide stability as the children know what is expected of them. If parents continue to change house rules just to spite the other parent, the children can become quite confused. Keeping the house rules similar can shorten the adjustment period for the children and show them that their parents are still willing to work together for their benefit.

Looking at divorce by profession

Florida residents might be interested to know that some professions have a higher divorce rate than others. For example, those who travel frequently or have a job related to nightlife are more likely to break up with a spouse. Bartenders and casino workers experience the highest divorce rate of any profession.

This data comes from a 2015 American Community Survey. Jobs that involve unpredictable hours or lots of travel have divorce rates above the median rate of 35 percent. Jobs with a higher rate of divorce include flight attendants, switchboard operators, nurses, ambulance drivers and dancers. However, physicians and surgeons, who also work varied hours, have relatively low divorce rates.

How military divorce rates are determined

The overall divorce rate in the military was 3.1 percent in 2016. However, those who live or are stationed in Florida may know that the divorce rates are vastly different for men and women. In 2016, the divorce rate for male troops was 2.6 percent, and that was relatively unchanged from 2013. The rate for female troops increased from 6.2 percent in 2015 to 6.6 percent in 2016.

The divorce rate of enlisted female soldiers was even higher at 8 percent in 2016. The rate for enlisted men was 2.8 percent in 2016. While the overall divorce rate in the military was similar to the civilian population, the rates are calculated in different ways. To determine military divorce rates, a researcher would look at the number of people listed as married at the beginning of the fiscal year in the Pentagon personnel system.

Building co-parenting relationships with toxic exes

Some Florida parents have difficulty dealing with each other after their divorces are finalized. When one parent is a toxic person, co-parenting can be even harder.

While parents might feel that their exes are toxic, they may simply be working through some of the issues that have lingered from their divorces. Parents can help to prevent conflict by approaching things differently. They should always place their children's interests at the forefront and leave old conflicts behind.

Shared parenting gains popularity

On Aug. 26, Florida residents celebrated Women's Equality Day with various civic events. Although it was originally declared by Congress as a celebration of the 19th Amendment to the Constitution, which gave American women the right to vote in 1920, it has been expanded to reflect upon issues of gender equality that still need to be resolved, particularly with relation to family legal issues.

Countries such as Canada and Costa Rica have a higher representation of women in the workforce when compared to the U.S., and this may be caused in part due to the unequal view of shared parenting in American society. In Florida, this unequal view is often upheld in family courts dealing with child custody cases.

How much does a divorce cost in Florida?

Are you concerned about getting a divorce because of how much it may cost? It is no secret that divorce can be very detrimental to your financial security both now and in the future. Add on the fact that Florida ranks high in divorce costs, and you may be searching for DIY forms or cheap lawyers.

The good news is that you have more control over the cost of your divorce than you think. How much you may spend will depend on the following factors.

Planning for small parenting expenses after divorce

After parents in Florida get divorced, it's common for disputes to arise over who should pay for different expenses. Some of these arguments could be avoided if the parents have detailed parenting plans. One of these often-overlooked details involves the payment of the children's back-to-school expenses.

It can be very expensive to pay for all of a child's back-to-school costs. Children may need new school supplies, shoes, coats, clothing and other items, and the associated expenses can quickly build. Parents may argue about who should be responsible for paying for these items. If these types of costs are not addressed in the parenting plans, parents may allow their types of custody arrangements to govern a fair solution.

When mediation is a poor fit for divorce

Florida couples whose marriages are coming to an end often have some mutual understanding of desired child custody and property division outcomes. At the least, they may be able to settle some issues in mediation without requiring a judge to rule on every dispute. However, this is not always the case, and some divorcing couples are best served by the adversarial nature of litigation. The first rule of mediation lends some insight into why it is inappropriate in certain cases.

A basic requirement of divorce mediation is that each party needs to be able to see the perspective of the other person. Mediation can begin with a dispute over every topic, from visitation plans to alimony, and still end successfully in a fair agreement. Even if every topic is a cause of dispute, one rule makes reaching any level of agreement possible. Each party must be willing to be okay with the other person being okay.

Young people seek prenups for financial security

Many Florida millennials are considering prenuptial agreements. As people choose to marry at older ages and with stronger careers and more assets on both sides, the agreements are often viewed as helpful assurances to protect the finances of both parties in case of a divorce.

Millennial couples are frequently aware of the potential for a marriage to end, even when entering into a relationship with the highest of hopes. Prenuptial agreements can make sense for couples that include entrepreneurs as well as those who have family money or potential inheritances. When both parties entering a marriage have property, growing careers or even companies of their own, a prenuptial agreement can help to set a firmer basis for a financial partnership.

Why women may have more difficulties after divorce

Although going through a divorce can be emotionally difficult, the financial part of dissolving a marriage can actually be more complex. For some Florida couples, a divorce can have a serious impact on both parties' budget and retirement. However, divorce tends to have a larger impact on women.

There are several reasons for this. First, women often earn less than men. Statistically, women earn just 82 cents for every dollar that men make. When race and the type of job is taken into account, that disparity can be even larger. For example, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, white women earn a median $790 per week while black women earn a median $645 per week. White men, on the other hand, earn a median $977 per week. Some jobs have larger gaps as well. Male personal financial advisers earn a median $1,714 per week while female advisers earn a median $953 per week.


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