While divorce rates have declined overall in recent years, approximately 40% of children experience divorce. Divorce is tough on everyone involved, but teens can take it especially hard. Studies suggest that teens are much more likely to engage in risky behaviors after a divorce.
What types of behavior should you be prepared for as a parent and what can you do about it?
Increased anger
There are variations in how teens act after divorce, but increased levels of anger are common. They may act out at school with teachers, get into fights and even damage property. Often, issues like this can be resolved internally. Teachers may get in touch with you and be understanding of the behavior given the circumstances. Nonetheless, if your teen acts like this in public, they could end up facing criminal charges.
A need to escape
Teens may feel the need to escape from difficult situations. This is a natural response for adults too. People “escape from reality” in different ways. For some, reading a book, painting a picture or playing video games can be enough. Others may turn to more risky behaviors.
Alcohol and narcotics are commonly used by teens to block out difficulties associated with divorce. Unfortunately, the use of such substances only allows a temporary escape from reality. Furthermore, users often come crashing back down to earth facing criminal charges and a host of other issues.
How can you help?
As a parent, you can certainly help guide your teen through the divorce. It’s important that you answer any of their questions. You can emphasize that the divorce was not their fault. It also really helps if you and your former spouse are able to remain amicable. Children look up to their parents on how to behave. Anger between you and your former spouse will likely cause your child to feel angry.
All teens act out at some point. This doesn’t mean they should face a lifetime of repercussions. If your teen is facing charges after engaging in risky behaviors, seeking legal guidance will help to mitigate the consequences.